If I'm so successful, why do I feel so empty?

I’ve asked this question many times throughout my 50+ year journey. My daily work as a software engineer, though valuable, feels superficial to me. I’ve rarely felt happy in a job, and I understand the pain of inward misalignment that successful people experience when their achievements feel hollow. But I’m learning to find contentment by adjusting my expectations and changing my focus.

Who I Help

Outwardly successful people who feel empty inside. Many professionals achieve their goals but wonder “Is this all there is?” Whether you’re a committed Christian, spiritual seeker, or secular achiever, you share the same core experience: external success that doesn’t touch your deeper hunger for meaning.

My Process

There are no shortcuts, and the path is not easy, but it is simple.

Step 1: Discover What You Actually Value

We look at your life for clues to what you truly value - those things that get you out of bed each morning to go to your job. We assess how those values align with your current work and workplace.

Step 2: Define Your Path Forward

We identify two clear options: stay or go.

• If you stay: Change your perspective, change your role, or move to a new team
• If you go: Find a similar role elsewhere or change your career entirely

Step 3: Address the Deeper Issues

Through conversation and storytelling, we uncover the powerful lies - usually from early childhood - that work against your fulfillment. I call these lies “demons” because they are the enemy of your soul and must be displaced by truth.

Step 4: Create Authentic Alignment

We explore how your unique gifts align with your deepest values and make a straightforward plan to implement changes that actually fit who you are.

What Makes This Work

• I’ve lived this question for 50+ years - I’m not teaching from theory but guiding from experience
• I understand both professional success and spiritual emptiness - the gap between achievement and fulfillment
• I work across faith backgrounds - whether you’re deeply religious or completely secular
• I focus on transformation, not just career tips - we address root issues, not just symptoms

How We Work Together

• Initial Session (90 minutes): Map the gap between your external success and internal design
• Ongoing Sessions: Monthly or bi-weekly conversations focusing on practical decisions while addressing deeper patterns
• Investment: $150 initial session, $250 ongoing sessions

The Goal

Whether you’re ever externally successful as defined by your peers, our aim is to help you find a deeper, more hopeful understanding of yourself and the life it is your privilege to live.